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At a certain point , you just need to re-strategize, ssome of this attitude need to be changed
1. Believing that you have to wait for the right time to begin.
There is no perfect time to start this
journey. It will never be perfect and you will always have challenges
and obstacles to overcome – it doesn’t really matter – just start
NOW. When you choose to be successful then the actions, the
decisions and the choices you make today will create your future.
“You don’t have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great”.
-Zig Ziglar
2. Accepting that moderate success is easier to achieve then aiming to achieve your wildest dreams.
It is so much easier to accept being
moderately successful than aiming to achieve success beyond your wildest
dreams. Dream big and set goals that are beyond the realms of your
current reality – go for it ,you may just surprise yourself as to what
amazing successes you can achieve.
“If any of you have a desire to be mediocre, you will probably find that you have already achieved your ambition.”
-Hugh B. Brown
3. Believing other peoples’ approval is important to defining your success in life.
You will never start your journey to success
if you are waiting for others to give their approval. It is your ego and
your fear of being criticised that directs you to seeking their
approval. Get over it and move on and do what you have to do to be
successful. For me committing to my 12 month plan with practical goals,
set tasks and activities was how I overcame this bad habit. I just had
to follow the plan and didn’t need anyones approval to do so.
“The good news is that the moment you decide
that what you know is more important than what you have been taught to
believe, you will have shifted gears in your quest for abundance.
Success comes from within, not from without”
-Ralph Waldo Emerson
4. Believing that your success can only be defined by the success in your professional life.
This bad habit you have to give up
immediately because there is no way you can be successful in one part of
your life. Your professional and your personal life are interconnected
and all aspects of your life need to be balanced.
“I believe that being successful means having
a balance of success stories across the many areas of your life. You
can’t truly be considered successful in your business life if your home
life is in shambles.”
-Zig Ziglar
5. Using other peoples’ definition of success to define who you are and what success looks like for you.
This was one of my really bad habits, in that
I constantly compared other people’s successes to how I wanted success
to be for me in my life. I now know that success comes from within and
once I achieved true happiness living the life I love, then success was
guaranteed. Using other peoples success, as a benchmark for my success
in life would not bring me happiness – that was something only I could
do, nobody else could do that for me.
“Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner”
-Lao Tzu
6. Believing that money and wealth is the only measurement to defining how successful you are
I don’t know why so many of us believe that
money and wealth defines how successful we are. If I wanted success in
my life I had to be earning lots of money – the happiness would come
later! Well that didn’t work out for me – even with money I didn’t feel
successful! I knew in my heart that money wasn’t going to bring me
happiness and for me to feel that I was successful I had to overcome my
belief that, my success would be measured by how much money I could
make. Once I got that bad habit out of the way, then I was free to
embrace on my terms success and happiness in my life.
“You can only become truly accomplished at
something you love. Don’t make money your goal. Instead, pursue the
things you love doing,and then do them so well that people can’t take
their eyes off you”
-Maya Angelo
7. Constantly focusing on all the reasons why you don’t deserve success in your life
This bad habit reflects a lack of
self-confidence and belief in you! I had to work really hard to overcome
this bad habit. For a long time I would rationalise in my head all the
reasons why I felt I wasn’t as successful as my peers, colleagues, and
friends. I would look back at all the bad choices I had made in my life
and wish I could have been a different person. I spent a lot of time
wishing I could be the same as everybody else, because then I would be
successful! I didn’t deserve success because I didn’t have the qualities
that successful people have. Now I reflect back and I shake my head –
what was I thinking??
“In the School of Life events, situations,
and the people you have attracted to be part of your personal
experiences is synchronized perfectly in order to teach you the lessons
that need to be learned. They show you exactly what is needed to be
successful in your Life.”
-Jacqueline Ripstein
8. You don’t know what you want or what success means for you so you just don’t do anything.
Achieving success in your life is not
complicated but you can make it as complicated and as hard as you want.
Success requires hard work, perseverance, clarity and focus. If you look
at any successful person those elements will feature somewhere in their
journey to having a successful life.
To aspire to be successful in your life you
have to know what a successful life means for you. Success comes from
the way you act, the way you think, your attitude toward life – success
is a habit and you work on it everyday of your life. If you don’t know
what success means to you then it is really hard to start the journey.
Knowing what you want and setting out a plan
with practical goals increases your chances of success. The plan gives
you the clarity and focus you need to start the journey – without a plan
and not knowing what you want, you will never begin the journey.
“One reason so few of us achieve what we
truly want is that we never direct our focus; we never concentrate our
power. Most people dabble their way through life, never deciding to
master anything in particular.”
-Anthony Robbins
9. You have a limiting belief that to be successful you have to pay a price at the expense of others.
This belief has come about as a result of
society promoting that to be successful, you have to be tough and
prepared to make sacrifices. It is people that will pay a price
for your success – mainly because successful people will do what ever it
takes to get what they want. This is rubbish and if you believe this to
be true then you will not experiences the great joy and happiness
success can bring to your life.
Your success in life is not determined by how
many people you have to step over or push aside to get what you want.
You, your actions, your thoughts and how well you serve others are what
contribute to you having success in your life.
10. The fear of failing and making mistakes is a huge block to you making the changes you need to make in your life.
For me, clinging on to this bad habit stopped
me from making the changes I needed to make for me to be happy and have
a successful life doing what I love to do – writing, speaking and
coaching. If you want to be happy and successful you are going to have
to accept that failures are necessary on the path to success. It is a
given.
This book gave me great tools and strategies
to effectively manage my fear of failure. Tim Hartford talks about
the wrong way we react to failure and that our egos take control and as a
result we try to “bury the failure – not a good thing. He suggests that
we should adapt the way we think and react to failure by adopting a
“trial and error approach”. What this means is that we cant really
predict how things are going to turn out and so we test it, adapt and
adjust along the way. Failure according to Tim is the opportunity we
need to figure out how we can succeed.
If you desire success in your life, you have
to be prepared to change. The first step to change, is for you to face
those “bad habits” that prevent you from achieving the success and
happiness you desire in your life. Once you have overcome your bad
habits, you will be unstoppable, and your life will be full of happiness
and success.
“So be sure when you step, Step with care and
great tact. And remember that life’s A Great Balancing Act. And will
you succeed? Yes! You will, indeed! (98 and ¾ percent guaranteed) Kid,
you’ll move mountains.”
-Dr Seuss
